"And I have blanket permission to be totally bugfuck nuts, right?" Kate asks, grinning. "I mean, that's the thing all brides are allowed to be, aren't they?" She totally won't be, she's way too laid back to actually get all worked up about anything, but there is about ten zillion shows on TV about crazy brides or scary brides or rich brides or whatever and everyone always seems to excuse the bad behaviour because she's the bride.

"I never thought I would get married," she says honestly. "So I've never thought about the wedding part before. My friend Mindy pretty much thinks that's blasphemy."